Boundaries

The new parents were having a tough time imitating the swaddling their child received at the hospital, which seemed to cause his sleeping to be too sporadic. When we were at their house they asked Lindsay about tips to swaddling their son. After talking about the best blankets for swaddling, she proceeded to turn their infant son into a stuffed burrito. Lindsay said, “Parents usually think they can wrap their baby too tight, but when they are in the womb they are in a much tighter space than any blanket. Boundaries are a big deal to babies especially at this stage. When babies are in the NICU we swaddle them so tightly they cannot move and when they go home their parents are too afraid of hurting them so they leave it loose. What ends up happening is in their attempt to not hurt the kid, they don’t give them what he wants, security. ”
I don’t think people ever really outgrow this need for boundaries. We can look at countless child stars that had the “luxury” of finances and fame to loosen boundaries that most have to live by and the result is typically heartbreaking. Many people that never heard “no” as a child grow up as socially awkward adults because no one gave their narcissism boundaries. This is why having good friends is so vital. We all need good friends who will still give us boundaries.

EDIT- I've been instructed by my favorite neonatal nurse to say that you can wrap a baby too tight. If they start to turn purple-ish colors or stop breathing that is too tight.